Saturday, March 31, 2012

The Friendship Paradox


Aren't friends a necessity in life? Assume yourself without any true and sincere friend.
How would you feel at places like Mc Donald's or a Pizza hut? What would you do with your cell ?? What about parties or hangouts ?? Think about events like your birthday or any reason worth celebrating. Who'll ask you about your worries. .?? Who's gonna tell you about their mood swings ?? Who'll tease you pairing with others? Who'll care, miss & irritate you?
These are sum out of many reasons why life wouldn't have been a lovable mess. The connection you feel goes beyond any words of description. A bond that makes it feel a divine intervention.
But what if you had to always live with this fear, that the people you loved the most, cared the most, the friends who really matter to you are at one point of time going to leave you? Your best friend from school, is not going to be your best friend in college and your best friend from your college life isn't going to be your best buddy during your working life. Unless destiny has been kind enough to land you both in the same college or work as the previous. Priorities change, people change, and at one point of time, no matter how much you may have told the person you love them,or been attached to them , or appreciated them, they are going to leave you. And you can do nothing about it rather than just accept the fact that he or she is gone, and to get over it. They say that fear or depression is the only emotion which is completely negative but can bring about positive results. Its an emotion which rips your heart to shreds but keeps you more alive than any other point of your life. The event of losing someone who really matters to you, maybe a friend, a lover, or family is a defining characteristic which helps in altering, for better or for the worse, the butterfly effect that follows can change the life of a man forever.
You learn from your mistakes in the past, you understand where you went wrong. The reasons why you lost them. So the next time you ever fall in love again or have a special friend you don't want to lose, you will remember the lessons you learnt from the past and put forth the new you, someone different and some one more understanding. And no matter what, never hesitate to take responsibility of your mistakes, cause  too often we don't realize what we have until it's gone. Too often we're too stubborn to say, 'Sorry, I was wrong.' Too often it seems we hurt the ones closest to our hearts, and we let the most foolish things tear us apart, for single moment of misunderstanding is so poisonous, that it makes us forget the hundred lovable moments spent together within a minute.
So stop making life more complicated than it already is and speak out what's really there in your heart. When you miss some one; Call them. If you wanna meet someone; Invite them. If you want to  be understood; Explain yourself. If you like someone;tell him/her. If you have questions; Ask them. Don't like it ? Say it. Like it? State it. Want something? Ask in the best possible way to get a yes.
If you already have a "no",take the risk of getting a "yes".
We have just one life.Let's be simple and happy!! Cause in life you will realize that there is a purpose for every person you meet.! Some are there to test you..Some will use you.. Some will teach you.. And some will bring out the best in You. Some may cause you pain but you'll learn to move on.! So let go of the people who can't treat you right and hold on to those who love you and see your worth...
So keep hope from people, but never have expectations.
For as you grow up, you will learn that even the person who wasn't supposed to ever let you down, probably will.
You will have your heart broken probably more than once & it's harder everytime. Then you yourself will break hearts too,so remember how it felt when yours was broken.
You will fight with your best friend. You will cry because time is passing fast,& you will eventually lose someone you love.
Nothing is permanent. Only memories last forever.
So click a lot of pictures, laugh a lot, and love like you've never been hurt because  every 60 seconds you spend upset is a min. of happiness you'll never get back.
Don't be afraid that your life will end; rather be afraid that it will never begin again. Cause the gift of life, is life itself.

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